Read the following passage and answer the questions given below it:
To me, there are very few human qualities less appealing than someone who is highly self-absorbed. A person who falls into this category takes him or herself extremely seriously. They love to listen to themselves speak, and value their own time—but no one else's. They are usually quite selfish with their time, love, and money, in addition to lacking compassion for those less fortunate. They are arrogant and come across as pompous and self-righteous. Self-absorbed individuals see others and often treat others as instruments or objects to get something they want. They usually see only one point of view—their own. They are right, and everyone else is wrong, unless, of course, you agree with them.
People who are self-absorbed can be rude, insensitive to the feelings of others, and primarily interested in themselves—their own wants, needs, and desires. They tend to see people in a hierarchical manner. In other words, they see certain people as being beneath them and, as such, they see them as less important than they are. Finally, self-absorbed people are poor listeners because, quite frankly, they aren't very interested in other people beyond a superficial level.
Obviously, I'm painting a worst-case scenario picture. Very few people are quite this bad. I paint this picture, however, because I believe it's important to be fully aware of what type of person you absolutely never, under any set of circumstances, want to become. This encourages you to be certain that none of these ugly characteristics ever creep into your life, and if they do, that you act quickly to move in a different direction.
Don't confuse self-esteem with self-absorption. The two are completely unrelated. In fact, you could say that the two are virtually opposite in nature. A person with high self-esteem loves others and feels good about herself. Because she already has what she needs in an emotional sense (feeling positive about herself), her natural instinct is to reach out to others in an unselfish way. She's extremely interested in hearing what other people have to say and in learning from them. She's very compassionate, always looking for ways to be of service or ways to be kind and generous. She is humble and treats everyone with respect and kindness.
There are many excellent reasons to become less self-absorbed. To begin with, as you can see by the picture I have painted, being self-absorbed is an ugly human quality. Beyond that, being self-absorbed is highly stressful. In fact, self-absorbed people sweat the small stuff as much, or more, than any other group of people–everything bothers or frustrates them. It seems that nothing is ever good enough.
For instance, self-absorbed people often have very poor learning curves. Since they don't listen well and aren't interested in other people, they don't have the advantage of learning from them. In addition, self-absorption comes across loud and clear to others, making them extremely resistant to wanting to be supportive or of any significant help. It's difficult to cheer on an arrogant person. In fact, it's tempting to want to see them fail.
(i) List four qualities of highly self-absorbed people.
(ii) What do you think the writer means by the phrase "they tend to see people in a hierarchical manner"?
(iii) What according to the writer is difference between a self-absorbed person and a person who has self-esteem?
(iv) Why are self-absorbed people highly stressed?
(v) Why do you think self-absorbed people are unlikely to succeed? (2 marks)
Answer:
(i) Four qualities of highly self-absorbed people are arrogance, selfishness, insensitivity, and being poor listeners.
(ii) The phrase "they tend to see people in a hierarchical manner" means that self-absorbed people view others as inferior or less important compared to themselves.
(iii) A self-absorbed person focuses solely on themselves and their needs, while a person with self-esteem loves others, feels positive about themselves, and extends kindness and respect to others.
(iv) Self-absorbed people are highly stressed because they obsess over small details, are never satisfied, and lack supportive relationships due to their behavior.
(v) Self-absorbed people are unlikely to succeed because their arrogance alienates others, and they fail to learn and grow due to poor listening skills.
Pick out words from the passage which mean the same as the following words/phrases:
(i) Sympathy and consideration (para 1)
(ii) having a sense of self-importance (para 1)
(iii) pride and faith in oneself (para 4)
(iv) makes them energy and disheartened (para 5)
(v) proud and conceited person (para 6) (5 marks)
Answer:
(i) Compassion
(ii) Arrogant
(iii) Self-esteem
(iv) Frustrates
(v) Pompous
Make sentences of your own with each of the following words from the passage:
(i) Point of view
(ii) Superficial
(iii) Creep into your life
(iv) Supportive
(v) Humble (5 marks)
Answer:
(i) Everyone has a different point of view on the subject.
(ii) His understanding of the problem was superficial at best.
(iii) Bad habits can easily creep into your life if you are not careful.
(iv) She was very supportive during my difficult time.
(v) Despite his success, he remains humble and grounded.